I recently found myself in need of some fool-proof and positive coping mechanisms in my life. Ways in which I could independently deal with the physical, emotional and spiritual after effects of an unexpected life event. I realized that I need to have more than one way of dealing with stress/sadness/loss/ or any other unwelcome negative feelings. Also, that I needed to do this myself. I may have amazing friends and family to lean on but I would have to carry the responsibility for my own recovery and wellness.
I didn’t cry even though I felt it would help me. I didn’t lash out because really there was no one and nothing to blame, sometimes life just does what it wants to do irrespective of your plans, thoughts and feelings. I was surely in denial for two whole days and acceptance came slowly but when it did I was ready with a plan to move on. Here are somethings that worked for me.
This by no means an exhaustive list, just a few things that worked for me. Look out for the positive things that can help you deal with the uncertainty in life and the chaos it can bring.
I did it! I took the leap of faith and asked the kind lady at the cafe to fill up a bowl of green goodness loaded with proteins and various crunchy things and set down to eat breakfast. I have been watching and hearing people eat salad for breakfast and my reaction has always been “good god!” or “yuck!”or something equally childish. Then my fantastic California-based cousin mentioned eating salad for breakfast and my mind started thinking. I love my cousin and think she’s one of the smartest and most amazing women out there. Trying to eat low carb and also kind of vegan gets annoyingly boring very quickly. But once I got over the barriers in my head the rules that said salad is acceptable for lunch and dinner. It wasn’t too hard.
This made me think of the limitations we put on ourselves the ideas we hold dear sometimes not even understanding why and we limit our dreams, our abilities, the joy we could get at this very moment if we just put down the bagel and picked up the salad bowl.
How do you break the habits and patterns? Either you have the self-awareness, the daring do or you have fabulous people in your life who will push you, make you try new stuff and widen your horizons, make your world varied and just a bit richer.
And you thought this post was about salad?